No matter how powerful, rich and influential you are or poor, weak and unpopular, the news of one's end time is always taken with a piece of salt, the word "DEATH". Funny enough, every man knows that death is certain, an inevitable end but he is heedless, unprepared for it. Each time our relative or the next door neighbor died, we console ourself and given self assured the our's is yet to come. How little is our knowledge, knowing that we have never been involved in creating ourself nor the creator engaged us in creation, forgotten that we live under the commands of the creator.
On the 25th December, 2014, I travelled home to sympathized with my elder sister who loss her husband. On getting home, I was told that we loss an elderly man in the village and they were about to bury him at that moment. I decided to follow the congregation to the cemetery before going to see my sister. I am very familiar with the village cemetery, I used to go there when ever we loss somebody in the village but that was a long time ago. Today, I find myself in the village cemetery looking strange to me though I saw it in my dream a night before. I could not recognized the position my mother was buried ten years ago, not to talk of my father, thirty two years ago. Today, comes another victim, not because God hate him but because today is his end time. His children, relative, friends were there but all left him when we were leaving, no one was sympathetic enough to stay behind or was any of his properties given to him. Oh what a life full of vanity up on vanity all is vanity, what a wasted effort if he did not earned forgiveness from his LORD, what a terrible and horrible place was the grave if he did not earned GOD mercy. Preachers have been telling us time without number, just like today, how worthless is our coming to the world if we did not work according to the will of God, yet we are heedless, stubborn, deceiving ourself that our time is yet to come. We waste so much time on things that are not beneficiary to us forgotten that death have no notices. The old, young, rich, poor, strong, weak must die one day and thereafter judgement day.
Today, remind yourself that you no longer have the time to waste, seek for the forgiveness of your sin, reconsign with your LORD and your neighbor, be your brother keeper. Let the lord live in you any moment of your day so that you can have peace when your time comes, death the necessary end.
Wednesday 31 December 2014
Monday 17 February 2014
THE SECRET OF A RICH MAN
Basically, God created man to worship Him and by doing so, He is going to provide for man, protect, guide, keep him in a proper shape, physically, psychologically and his mental well being and in all, keep his soul in a peaceful place after passed on to eternity. Ironically, man remold and reshaped himself for the quest for riches; physical possession. Unfortunately for man, those physical possession acquired here on earth must also be abandoned on this earth and it has no help of any in the hereafter.
The holy quran encourage muslim to work hard so as to avoid poverty and the holy bible said that money answers all things which mean that God Himself appreciate riches. But the question is what kind of riches does God supports, who is a rich man? some people acquired riches at the expense of their servants, their employee, their business partners, other acquired riches by looting the public treasury, the money that was supposed to better the life of the general citizen like what is happening in Africa, Nigeria my country, others steal, robbed and killed to acquired riches, other lied and deceived, 419 to acquired riches, others going into drugs and prostitution, others used the name of God to acquired riches. Then who is a rich man? Some other people may acquired theirs genuinely through hard work, business, talent or academic knowledge; they have money, assets that can take care of his 4th generation but the more he made the money, the more his soul quest for more, these are not riches, then who is a rich man?
A rich man is that person who is satisfied and contented with what he has whether little or more and ready to part and sacrifice for the sake of others person's happiness and well being without expecting a return. If you are not in this group of persons no matter what you have or possessed you are the poorest of the poor and you will not have the mercy of God in the hereafter.
Finally, riches and poverty are in the state of mind, if you have acquired much but your soul is not satisfied and you are not willing to part some, then you are poor. But if you acquire little and your soul is satisfied and willing to give out of it, you are rich.
This story was related to me by my late mother; Aminna whom I named my first daughter after.
The holy quran encourage muslim to work hard so as to avoid poverty and the holy bible said that money answers all things which mean that God Himself appreciate riches. But the question is what kind of riches does God supports, who is a rich man? some people acquired riches at the expense of their servants, their employee, their business partners, other acquired riches by looting the public treasury, the money that was supposed to better the life of the general citizen like what is happening in Africa, Nigeria my country, others steal, robbed and killed to acquired riches, other lied and deceived, 419 to acquired riches, others going into drugs and prostitution, others used the name of God to acquired riches. Then who is a rich man? Some other people may acquired theirs genuinely through hard work, business, talent or academic knowledge; they have money, assets that can take care of his 4th generation but the more he made the money, the more his soul quest for more, these are not riches, then who is a rich man?
A rich man is that person who is satisfied and contented with what he has whether little or more and ready to part and sacrifice for the sake of others person's happiness and well being without expecting a return. If you are not in this group of persons no matter what you have or possessed you are the poorest of the poor and you will not have the mercy of God in the hereafter.
Finally, riches and poverty are in the state of mind, if you have acquired much but your soul is not satisfied and you are not willing to part some, then you are poor. But if you acquire little and your soul is satisfied and willing to give out of it, you are rich.
This story was related to me by my late mother; Aminna whom I named my first daughter after.
Wednesday 12 February 2014
THE MIRROR OF A WOMAN
Do you know what it is for society to appreciate a woman? It does not mean the money she possesses, not the quality of dress worn, not the type of car driven, not the quantity of make up on the face of a woman but a good HUSBAND is the mirror of a woman.
This is the story of a woman I admired so much in my child days way back in the village. The husband used to called her moon shine. They lived happily together with the mother-in-law and 4 kids; 2boys and 2 girl. The young woman was dark in complexion but the colour was shining, well polished with the good food provided by the husband. She does not used to engaged in a hard work because the husband loved her so much that he will not allowed her. She had everything a young woman will have in the village because the husband was equal to the task. But one day, fate struck, an unexpected happened, the man died of snake bit in his late fortys.
The source of livelihood stopped, even the support getting from her mother, mother-in-low, and the only surviving brother-in law, things were never the same. The woman decided to remarried, married to a man who already has a wife. At the beginning, everything looks smooth in the marriage but within few years of marriage things turned sour. She was accused of been in possession of charm which she use in the house, she was equally accused of witchcraft. Unfortunately for the woman, the only surviving child in the marriage was disable, refused to grow up. When the heat was at the pick and the woman was maltreated looking very horrible, infact she was in the shadow of herself. She left the marriage and went to leave with the mother. She never recovered from these incident for a long time. After some years with the mother, she went back to the family she left long time ago, the family I believed was created to belong to, were she was idol and worship by the late husband.
For a very long time, I continue to ask myself, is it not the same woman, moon shine, which everyone in the late husband family love and idol that was accused of witchcraft and charm making? was it not the same woman that was so beautiful and love by the villagers that was now looking like a ghost? Its is now the answers to those questions came me, that the late husband was her real husband created for her by God and that the husband was the mirror of the woman she named MOON SHINE.
This is the story of a woman I admired so much in my child days way back in the village. The husband used to called her moon shine. They lived happily together with the mother-in-law and 4 kids; 2boys and 2 girl. The young woman was dark in complexion but the colour was shining, well polished with the good food provided by the husband. She does not used to engaged in a hard work because the husband loved her so much that he will not allowed her. She had everything a young woman will have in the village because the husband was equal to the task. But one day, fate struck, an unexpected happened, the man died of snake bit in his late fortys.
The source of livelihood stopped, even the support getting from her mother, mother-in-low, and the only surviving brother-in law, things were never the same. The woman decided to remarried, married to a man who already has a wife. At the beginning, everything looks smooth in the marriage but within few years of marriage things turned sour. She was accused of been in possession of charm which she use in the house, she was equally accused of witchcraft. Unfortunately for the woman, the only surviving child in the marriage was disable, refused to grow up. When the heat was at the pick and the woman was maltreated looking very horrible, infact she was in the shadow of herself. She left the marriage and went to leave with the mother. She never recovered from these incident for a long time. After some years with the mother, she went back to the family she left long time ago, the family I believed was created to belong to, were she was idol and worship by the late husband.
For a very long time, I continue to ask myself, is it not the same woman, moon shine, which everyone in the late husband family love and idol that was accused of witchcraft and charm making? was it not the same woman that was so beautiful and love by the villagers that was now looking like a ghost? Its is now the answers to those questions came me, that the late husband was her real husband created for her by God and that the husband was the mirror of the woman she named MOON SHINE.
Tuesday 4 February 2014
ONE IDEA THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR SUCCESS.
It is common to blame oneself or others when we are not successful in our home or choices of career. As a result some of us give up their dreams and become burden to theirselves and relatives, some become so miserable and frustrated to the extend that they take their life. What a wasted life, dreams and aspiration. If only you have the idea of believing in yourself, the hidden light in you, created by God.
Believing in oneself is a light within us but need to ignite to shine broadly. At a point in life, your role model or the so called successful one so to say, also have problem of igniting their in built light so as to enable them become what they are today. In other words, their ability to ignite their inbuilt light make the different between you and them and which made the turning point in their life and become successful. However, for one to be able to believed in him or herself, the following steps can be taken.
First, setting of goal; at a point in life, you have to set a goal, that is, what you intend to achieve in life and how you intend to live your life. The goal is so important for one to be able to believe in oneself but does not necessarily mean that the goal must be the right one. Some people feels that they are not enlighten enough to set a goal for theirselves. If you are learned or enlightened enough to set right goal for yourself fine, but should you not, make even a wrong one for a start. as you continue making correction on the wrong goal , the possibility of getting it right is certain and there lays the secrete to success.
Secondly, be focus on your goal: once a goal has be made, it is pertinent on us to monitor it. Ensuring that we are not distracted from what we hope to achieved.
Thirdly, Accessment of goal: From time to time, we are to evaluate our goal to ensure that we are making progress. Should we discovered that no much progress has been made or hope to be achieved, then we can re strategized.
Finally, be patience: When your goal seems to be failing or not meeting up to expectation, you have to be courageous. In actual fact, it is only one that quite that is a failure, you can try, try and try again on till you succeed.
For you to succeed, you have to believe in yourself, you have to set a goal in life wether right or wrong, make correction if necessary, be focus, access your goal, be patience and courageous to start again if there need.
Believing in oneself is a light within us but need to ignite to shine broadly. At a point in life, your role model or the so called successful one so to say, also have problem of igniting their in built light so as to enable them become what they are today. In other words, their ability to ignite their inbuilt light make the different between you and them and which made the turning point in their life and become successful. However, for one to be able to believed in him or herself, the following steps can be taken.
First, setting of goal; at a point in life, you have to set a goal, that is, what you intend to achieve in life and how you intend to live your life. The goal is so important for one to be able to believe in oneself but does not necessarily mean that the goal must be the right one. Some people feels that they are not enlighten enough to set a goal for theirselves. If you are learned or enlightened enough to set right goal for yourself fine, but should you not, make even a wrong one for a start. as you continue making correction on the wrong goal , the possibility of getting it right is certain and there lays the secrete to success.
Secondly, be focus on your goal: once a goal has be made, it is pertinent on us to monitor it. Ensuring that we are not distracted from what we hope to achieved.
Thirdly, Accessment of goal: From time to time, we are to evaluate our goal to ensure that we are making progress. Should we discovered that no much progress has been made or hope to be achieved, then we can re strategized.
Finally, be patience: When your goal seems to be failing or not meeting up to expectation, you have to be courageous. In actual fact, it is only one that quite that is a failure, you can try, try and try again on till you succeed.
For you to succeed, you have to believe in yourself, you have to set a goal in life wether right or wrong, make correction if necessary, be focus, access your goal, be patience and courageous to start again if there need.
Tuesday 28 January 2014
MY LATE LITTLE HALF BROTHER IS ALSO MY FATHER.
I came from a polygamous home and Lukman was my late little half brother, the last of my father children born at the age of eighty plus. He was born after the death of my father and the mother gave birth to him through difficulties. I never realized how much I love him on till his death because I left home when he was about 3 to 4yrs.
After I left the village, I was not opportune to see him again before he died at about 9yrs. From the stories I gathered, Lukman was very strict with the mom, my step mother, he made his decision very clear to her but allow his mom to have her way in matters of argument. I remembered that he was also very précised to my mom issues too probably because he felt they were his wives. I saw those traits in him even when he was younger but also very friendly with all of us because he believed that he was our father. He goes from house to house to check the well being of my sister and half sisters in the village who has married as at that age. He always talk boldly as if he was in his twentys. He was very sensible and sensitive. He sometimes confide in my mom or my sister things he felt important to him. I can also realized how much he love his sister Meriam, the only person that was with him the day he died in the hospital. Lukman life was short but actually leaves as a father to us.
Now is the issue, after Lukman died, I feel much pain in me, one because I did not see him for a long time while I was away from the village. Two, the more they relates his stories to me the more I grow fond of him wishing if I have see him in his last days. Thirdly, I now realized how much I love him.
I sat down today without knowing what to do for my late little half brother so I decided to write about him. May the almighty God, Allah forgive your short comings if any on the account of your age and put you in paradise with your father you never knew but played his role perfectly on us. I really wish I hard seen you in your last days but forgive me for been away for so long Lukman, my late little half brother!!!
After I left the village, I was not opportune to see him again before he died at about 9yrs. From the stories I gathered, Lukman was very strict with the mom, my step mother, he made his decision very clear to her but allow his mom to have her way in matters of argument. I remembered that he was also very précised to my mom issues too probably because he felt they were his wives. I saw those traits in him even when he was younger but also very friendly with all of us because he believed that he was our father. He goes from house to house to check the well being of my sister and half sisters in the village who has married as at that age. He always talk boldly as if he was in his twentys. He was very sensible and sensitive. He sometimes confide in my mom or my sister things he felt important to him. I can also realized how much he love his sister Meriam, the only person that was with him the day he died in the hospital. Lukman life was short but actually leaves as a father to us.
Now is the issue, after Lukman died, I feel much pain in me, one because I did not see him for a long time while I was away from the village. Two, the more they relates his stories to me the more I grow fond of him wishing if I have see him in his last days. Thirdly, I now realized how much I love him.
I sat down today without knowing what to do for my late little half brother so I decided to write about him. May the almighty God, Allah forgive your short comings if any on the account of your age and put you in paradise with your father you never knew but played his role perfectly on us. I really wish I hard seen you in your last days but forgive me for been away for so long Lukman, my late little half brother!!!
Monday 13 January 2014
THE MAGIC WORD THAT CAN KEEP RELATIONSHIP WORKING FOR EVER!!!
Many at times we have relationship that started very smoothly but later developed into hatred, even wishing the other partner no life or attempting to take his or her life. These are not existing only within relationships but also family circles. As a result friends are at each other neck, brother against brother, broken homes etc. We fail to realized that relationship is like a moving vehicle which needs to be maintained from time to time in other to function properly and the maintenance of relationship is "apology, the ability to say am SORRY which is the magic word that makes relationship keep moving". As a matter of fact, it has worked for me as a husband and a father in family issues, and as a worker in the office, even getting away from issues that would have cost me dearly, just to say I am indeed very sorry, make issue resolved.
However, there is no special rudiment on how an apology should be expressed but the following tips can assist in expressing acceptable apology.
1. Responsibility: The way a partner admits responsibility goes a long way for an acceptable apology to be tendered in a relationship to work smoothly. Either of the partners has to accept responsibility of what he did wrong, what he supposed to have done or not to do, having it in the back of mind that we are human prone to mistakes.
2. Remorseful: The way by which regret is to be expressed for a wrong doing in a workable relationship to be sustained. Either of the partners that realized he or her wrong doing should express regret in such a language that show genuine remorseful. In other words, saying sorry for the wrong doing in such a manner that the partner will believed that the act was not intentional.
3. Forgiveness: Asking for forgiveness for a wrong doing is an ingredient of apologizing in relationship. The partner that is saying sorry should genuinely ask for forgiveness, show that there is need to trust again, no doubt.
4. Change: It is also a fact that accepting responsibility, showing remorseful, asking for forgiveness without ready to change from a wrong doing or attitude will have little or no meaning in perfecting relationship. The partner taken responsibility for the above three factors should also ready to change genuinely so that the wrong done will not re-occur in future.
Finally, the magic word, SORRY has no limited numbers of times that it has to be said and when it is to be said, but care should be taken not to abused it. As long as a partner continue to say sorry and the other agrees to accept, the motion at which the relationship is working will remain constant and working for ever.
However, there is no special rudiment on how an apology should be expressed but the following tips can assist in expressing acceptable apology.
1. Responsibility: The way a partner admits responsibility goes a long way for an acceptable apology to be tendered in a relationship to work smoothly. Either of the partners has to accept responsibility of what he did wrong, what he supposed to have done or not to do, having it in the back of mind that we are human prone to mistakes.
2. Remorseful: The way by which regret is to be expressed for a wrong doing in a workable relationship to be sustained. Either of the partners that realized he or her wrong doing should express regret in such a language that show genuine remorseful. In other words, saying sorry for the wrong doing in such a manner that the partner will believed that the act was not intentional.
3. Forgiveness: Asking for forgiveness for a wrong doing is an ingredient of apologizing in relationship. The partner that is saying sorry should genuinely ask for forgiveness, show that there is need to trust again, no doubt.
4. Change: It is also a fact that accepting responsibility, showing remorseful, asking for forgiveness without ready to change from a wrong doing or attitude will have little or no meaning in perfecting relationship. The partner taken responsibility for the above three factors should also ready to change genuinely so that the wrong done will not re-occur in future.
Finally, the magic word, SORRY has no limited numbers of times that it has to be said and when it is to be said, but care should be taken not to abused it. As long as a partner continue to say sorry and the other agrees to accept, the motion at which the relationship is working will remain constant and working for ever.
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